Marriage Retreat in North Carolina
Helping marriages heal and connect
Marriage Retreat in North Carolina
You wonder how it is possible to love your partner and be loved so much, and yet both feel so lonely and unheard in your marriage. Some days it feels like you speak two completely different languages. Some of the words really fucking hurt. You know they don't mean them, but you can't stop feeling the pain anymore. It brings you back to childhood memories of feeling rejected and hurt by your parent and makes you move further away from them. You are wondering if you are exaggerating or being wrong about how you interpret the situation sometimes. You know you need to learn better communication and listening skills. You know you need more than traditional weekly marriage counseling that takes months to experience that deep healing you can no longer wait for.
YOU NEED A RELIEF NOW.
You are ready for change!
You’ve had friends go to therapy and tell you how life-changing it is. But, when you asked how long it took to start feeling better- they said it took a few months before they got to dig into the nitty-gritty stuff and feel like real change was happening.
You wish it was like the movies. Where a couple goes on a weekend retreat and by the end of the weekend they’ve started to make a real, deep change and feel reconnected in a deep, powerful way. You hate the idea of feeling like this for another minute much less another few months!
What if we could make your dream a reality?
My name is Irina and I can teach you and your partner how to break down the barriers from your life experiences so that you can write a new narrative for your family. By unpacking your old childhood wounds and healing from them once and for all, you will connect to your partner in the most authentic loving way. Your marriage will transform from the same old heated arguments that take you nowhere to a marriage full of understanding, compassion, and real connection. And we can make direct, deep change by scheduling a private custom marriage retreat for you and your partner. Let’s cut through months of therapy in a day or two so you can start feeling more connected NOW!
You want a solution that is proven to work!
I use one of the most empirically validated modalities that is based on 30+ years of research called Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT. In fact, EFT is the ONLY couples therapy recommended by the American Psychological Association to help improve relationships. I’ll guide you through a series of connection building exercises that will heal your wounds of hurt and betrayal and renew trust and commitment. Once you truly understand the dynamics of your relationship and the underlying emotions, you will be able to find lasting solutions that will keep your relationship strong no matter what challenges you face now or in the future.
It’s important to understand that EFT intensive is not better than weekly couples counseling. Most couples need both in order to fully heal from their wounds and maintain their successes over many years after and not end up at a therapist’s office 6 months down the line. Intensive simply helps to “jumpstart” your marriage by dedicating 7-14 uninterrupted hours (depending on whether you are choosing 1 or 2 day retreat) with an experienced therapist as a facilitator so that you can start feeling better right away as opposed to waiting for six weekly marriage counseling sessions.
Irina Baechle,
LCSW, Marriage Retreat Facilitator and Marriage Therapist
How Does Marriage Retreat in North Carolina Work?
It’s simple-you turn off your phone, leave your children and the busyness of everyday life to someone else, and focus on what matters most-your relationship.
We either meet at my office, your home (available for a limited number of clients), an airbnb (highly recommend), or virtually through zoom, so that you feel as comfortable as possible. Generally speaking, we meet in 2 (3 hour) chunks of time. Most couples prefer 3 hours in the morning (the first hour we are together and we look at your relationship history, the next two hours are individual sessions), 1 hour lunch break, and then 3 hours (together with breaks) in the afternoon.
If you are doing a 2 day intensive, the next day we will start with a two hour block in the morning, have one to two hour break for lunch, and then have a two hour block in the afternoon. At the end of the second day, we’ll spend time reviewing what we did and talking about next steps.
Whether we meet in person or online- I can provide suggestions of staycations or retreat spots and date ideas to up-level your intensive experience. Each intensive is customized based on your needs as a couple.
How Will I know If Marriage Retreat Will Work For Me?
Marriage Intensives may be a suitable choice if:
You're facing a crisis, but both partners are committed to working through it.
You find yourselves trapped in a negative cycle of conflict that seems unbreakable.
You sense emotional distance in your relationship, resembling roommates, and desire reconnection.
Your demanding schedules or childcare responsibilities make weekly counseling impractical.
You're a current client looking to delve deeply into healing from a past betrayal.
Who is NOT a good Fit for Marriage Retreat in North Carolina?
Couples who are engaged in an active and ongoing physical violence.
Couples who are actively addicted to something.
Couples who are engaged in an active and ongoing affair that has not ended yet.
Both partners do not share the same therapeutic goal for the marriage. In other words, if one partner wishes to repair the relationship while the other does not, an intensive format may not be conducive to making that decision. Marriage Intensives work best when both partners are aligned in their goals.
Will I Need Follow Up Work After The Marriage Retreat?
Yes. Follow up work is they key to sustaining the success you’ve made during the intensive weekend. It's important to remember that the intensive is not the real life and when you are outside of the intensive bubble and back in the throws of real life, the negative interactional cycles will take over, which will be devastating after getting to this very good safe place during the intensive.
The amount of follow up work depends on many factors. For example, some couples come already partially de-escalated and might not need a lot of follow up work. Others come barely hanging on to the thread and they will probably need significant amount of follow up. Follow up work may look like weekly marriage counseling sessions with me or a series of intensives.
Do you offer any other types of Intensives?
I do! I offer 1-Day Premarital Intensives that offer several impotant benefits to couples:
Stronger Foundation: By addressing potential challenges and concerns before marriage, couples can establish a more robust foundation for their partnership. They enter into marriage with a better understanding of themselves and their partner, increasing the likelihood of a successful union.
Reduced Stress: Preparing for marriage can be stressful, and premarital counseling can help alleviate some of that stress by providing clarity and guidance. Couples can feel more confident in their decision to marry when they have actively worked on their relationship.
Enhanced Communication: Premarital intensives emphasize effective communication, helping couples develop the skills to express themselves clearly, actively listen, and resolve conflicts constructively. These communication skills are crucial for a healthy and lasting marriage.
Efficient and Time-Saving: A one-day premarital intensive condenses the counseling process into a single, intensive session. This can be highly appealing for couples with busy schedules, limited time, or those who prefer a more efficient approach to relationship preparation.
What other couples say on Google:
“We've just completed a full day EFT intensive with Irina, and are shocked how much we didn't know about how each of us was really feeling on the inside (we have been together for a very long time). This technique is simply amazing and I am actually excited to continue working on my relationship for the very first time ever. Just do it.”
— Married 23 years
“If you find yourself in need of a marriage therapist who leads with compassion, authenticity, and true dedication to her craft, we wholeheartedly recommend Irina. She has the power to transform relationships and bring joy and fulfillment back into your life. Trust in her expertise, and you will find yourself on a path towards a brighter, happier future.
— Married 7 years
“Irina pretty much saved my marriage and made our emotional connection even stronger than before we had children, so I highly recommend her to all my family and friends struggling with communication and “roommate” marriage type problems. She is not only extremely knowledgeable, but also direct, caring, and very compassionate person. It might take you awhile to get there, but you won’t regret your investment, I promise you that”.
— Married 10 years
“I cannot recommend Irina enough! Her virtual therapy option during the pandemic has saved my marriage.
Irina is passionate about her work and deeply cares for her clients. My only regret is that we should have reached out to her years ago”.
-Married 4 years
“Irina has been an absolute blessing in our lives. With her compassionate approach, she has not only helped to save our marriage but also guided us towards a future filled with love, understanding, and anticipation. We are now proud parents-to-be, expecting twins, and we owe a great portion of our unity to Irina's expertise. From our very first session, Irina made it a priority to ensure that both my husband and I felt heard and understood. Her genuine nature and empathetic demeanor created a safe space for us to express our deepest fears, frustrations, and desires. Irina's ability to connect with us on an emotional level fostered a sense of trust that was vital for the healing process.
One of the most remarkable aspects of Irina's approach is her authenticity. She never hesitated to challenge us when necessary, encouraging us to confront uncomfortable truths and address unresolved issues. Her guidance extended beyond mere words, as she provided practical recommendations for activities and work that would help us rebuild our connection. We followed her suggestions, and even months later, we continue to reap the benefits.
What truly sets Irina apart is her genuine passion for counseling. It is evident that she isn't driven by financial gain but rather by a sincere desire to help couples find happiness and harmony. Irina consistently demonstrated that she had our best interests at heart, and she never hesitated to let us know when she believed we were ready to graduate from therapy or when she felt we needed more work. This level of transparency and honesty allowed us to trust her deeply.
If you find yourself in need of a marriage therapist who leads with compassion, authenticity, and true dedication to her craft, we wholeheartedly recommend Irina. She has the power to transform relationships and bring joy and fulfillment back into your life. Trust in her expertise, and you will find yourself on a path towards a brighter, happier future.”
— Married 4 years
“Irina is an empathic and caring therapist. She works incredibly hard to come alongside her clients to understand their experiences. With couples, she brings understanding to their negative patterns of interactions that create disconnection and helps them to create new options amidst these patterns. She is direct and transparent about her clinical work and creates a safe space to go into difficult and painful spots with the purpose of repairing hurts and building reconnection in couples. Irina is warm, interactive and direct in her style and overall is a wonderful clinician.”
— EFT Therapist and Partner
Investment:
Total Investment for 1 full day: $3000
Total Investment for 2 full days: $6000
There is an additional $1,000 travel fee for in-person marriage intensives to your location if you live in Virginia or outside of Raleigh, NC.
Marriage intensives offer several cost-effective advantages compared to traditional weekly counseling sessions:
Efficient Use of Time: Marriage intensives typically skip the initial "catching up" phase that can consume valuable time in weekly counseling sessions. This means that from the very beginning of the intensive, you can dive right into addressing the core issues in your relationship. This efficient use of time can lead to quicker progress in therapy.
Accelerated Progress: Marriage intensives provide an opportunity to go deeper into the issues and challenges within the relationship in a concentrated timeframe. The extended duration of intensive sessions allows for a more thorough exploration of issues and faster progress in therapy. Couples can work through multiple topics and exercises in a shorter period, potentially reducing the overall number of sessions required.
Reduced Overall Costs: Because of the efficiency and accelerated progress, couples often find that they require fewer total hours of therapy when opting for a marriage intensive compared to weekly counseling. This can translate to cost savings, as you may need fewer sessions overall.
Minimized Travel and Scheduling Costs: For couples with busy schedules or those who live at a distance from their therapist, the condensed nature of marriage intensives can reduce travel and scheduling costs. Instead of committing to weekly or bi-weekly appointments, you can plan for a shorter, concentrated period of therapy.
How Can Marriage Retreat in North Carolina Help Me?
More connectedness
More closeness
More safety
Better communication
Understanding of your negative cycle
Rebuild your relationship with love, joy, respect, and connection.
Who is a Good Fit for Marriage Retreat in North Carolina?
Couples who need a relief from their pain right now
Couples who live far away from a highly skilled EFT therapist
Couples where one partner is often traveling
Couples in transition (new marriage, new job, new baby, etc)
