Who can you trust to heal your marriage?
Marriage Counseling Raleigh NC with ICEEFT Certified Marriage Counselor Irina Baechle, LCSW
Your marriage deserves the best.
You want to figure out how to fix the communication, how to be more than roommates, how to feel connected and in love. You’ve tried doing things on your own. BUT every time you have the hard conversations you end up more upset than before without a solution for moving forward. You might have even tried therapy before but the therapist just nodded and listened. Why schedule a session if you are going to just fight the whole time?
You are here because you are probably wondering whether A) You can trust me and B) I can actually help you as your marriage counselor in Raleigh NC. If so, you are in the right place, keep reading.
Change in Relationships is something I know well…
I am ethnically Russian, but I was born and raised in Kazakhstan, Central Asia (think Borat and smile). I came to the United States in 2006 to travel for a couple of months (because I love traveling), fell in love with the country (and a boy let’s be honest), and never left. I had to start my life from scratch multiple times (moved between the coasts, divorce), including learning a new language and adjusting to a new culture. It was never easy, but it transformed me as a person and inspired me to become a therapist-the coolest job in the world.
I have always been fascinated by people and how relationships work. And I hated math. So after studying for about a decade (in 4 different countries), I became a therapist. A therapist who works hard to create a safe place for her clients to explore their fears and insecurities when they are uncertain about their partner’s feelings and they can’t emotionally reach them, leaving them feeling anxious and depressed. A therapist who is determined to help you move from disconnection and unhappiness to being able to step outside of your old cycle and communicate your needs in a loving, open, yet assertive way.
I love teaching my clients what REALLY works to create long-lasting, stable, loving, and passionate relationships. It isn’t a quick fix. It isn’t easy… why?
Because we have to work on fixing all the old habits and patterns you’ve been taught your entire life. Change does not happen overnight, but this kind of change can change your entire life and ALL of your relationships- those with kids, with friends, with your parents… with everybody!
How I Help Couples (Hint: It’s more than talking about it)
Therapy with me differs from other therapists in that I have a very direct and transparent style (might be due to my Russian culture). My clients say that I “keep it real” and say it as it is. I am not your typical nod and smile therapist, and I will jump into the emotional soup with you. I will make you work. My work is not a “crash diet” it is a relationship lifestyle overhaul.
To get the most out of this long-term expect to work together for the next year digging deeply until this new way of being becomes second nature- on good days, on stressful days, during the sexy vacation times, and during the gnarly times of conflict.
I use a variety of evidence based interventions that required years of additional post graduate trainings and ongoing monthly consultation, including Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT Certified Couples Therapist) and Interpersonal Psychotherapy. My therapy style is very relationship-based and I believe that one of the best predictors of success in therapy is the fit between you and the therapist.
We will probably be able to do some effective clinical work together if you answer yes to the following questions:
I understand that commitment to the therapy process is the first and most important prerequisite to a successful outcome
I am open to being vulnerable during treatment (whatever that might be for you), but I know that my therapist will be there to support me through each step
I understand that any change requires active and consistent participation from me
I appreciate honest and straightforward feedback
P.S: There probably be some crying, laughing, and swearing during our session. It’s all for the right cause:)
Marriage Counseling Raleigh NC
If you are ready to reclaim your relationships-with yourself and/or your partner because you are tired of worrying and feeling disconnected and alone, schedule your free 15 min consultation with me today by clicking here. It’s time to kick that inner critic in the butt and build happy lasting relationships with the person who matters most.
ICEEFT Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist (post graduate certification training and ongoing monthly consultation)