If you still love each other, but feel disconnected, stuck, or more like roommates than partners, you’re in the right place.

Most of the couples I work with aren’t on the brink of divorce. They’re successful, thoughtful people who just can’t seem to feel close anymore.

If you’re asking:

• “Why do we keep having the same fight?”

• “Why does it feel so lonely even though we’re together?”

• “How did we lose what we had?”

That’s exactly the work I do here.

Honestly? It's nothing like what most people expect.

You're not going to walk in, sit across from me on a couch, and spend six hours just talking about what went wrong. That's not how this works, and it's not how people actually heal.

Here's what the day actually looks like:

9:30–11:00 — Couples session

We start together. I give you time to settle in, get out of your head, and actually land in the room. A lot of couples show up to their first session so braced for conflict that it takes a solid 20 minutes just to breathe. That's okay. We're not rushing anywhere. From there, we start exploring, not just the surface stuff, but what's underneath it. The loneliness you've been carrying. The reason you shut down when things get hard. The moment you stopped believing your partner was really on your side. We go there. That's where the real work begins.

11:00–12:00 — Individual session (Partner 1)

Each of you gets protected one-on-one time with me. This is where we slow things way down and go somewhere we can't always go with your partner in the room. Old wounds, family patterns, the story you've been telling yourself about this relationship. No pressure to perform or protect. Just you and me.

12:00–1:00 — Individual session (Partner 2)

Same thing for the other partner. This time is yours- private, confidential, and held separately.

1:00–2:00 — Lunch break

This is not a throwaway hour. Eating, breathing, stepping outside, that's part of the process. Your nervous system needs the reset. You'll often notice something quietly shifting during this break that started in the morning session. Let it.

2:00–3:30 — Couples session

We come back together with everything that surfaced throughout the day and start to work with it. This is often where the real turning points happen, where couples begin to actually hear each other differently, sometimes for the first time in years. It's also usually the deepest and most meaningful part of the day.

Throughout the entire day, we take bio and stretch breaks whenever we need them. This isn't school. If someone needs to move, breathe, step outside, or just pause, we pause. Regulation is part of the work, not a disruption to it.

We repeat a similar structure for the intensive day #2.

After your first 2-day intensive, we continue with monthly 6-hour sessions over approximately 12 months. Each one builds on the last. Real momentum usually kicks in around month 2 or 3-that's when couples start telling me things are feeling different at home, not just in session.

This isn't a one-and-done experience. It's a process. And if you're willing to stay with it, it can genuinely change how your relationship feels, not just how you talk about it.

Couples come for an intensive once a month.

When you decide to work with me, I require that we schedule your first 6 intensives in advance — so six months out — so your healing stays consistent and prioritized.

For most couples, the full process takes around 12 months (give or take).
Some couples need a little more time, some a little less, depending on the depth of what we’re healing and how quickly changes stabilize.

This monthly intensive rhythm allows your brain and nervous system time to integrate the work while still creating steady, powerful progress.

Let me be straight with you because I think you deserve that before you invest your time, money, and emotional energy into this.

Expect it to feel uncomfortable before it feels better.

Not because I'm going to push you around or make things worse, but because the stuff that's been sitting between you two didn't get there overnight, and it doesn't dissolve with a few good conversations. Real change asks something of you. That's not a warning to scare you off. It's just the truth.

Here's what you can actually expect when you work with me:

You will be heard, both of you. Not just the partner who reached out first. Not just the one who's more vocal or more in pain. I work hard to hold space for both people equally, because I've seen what happens when one partner feels ganged up on in therapy. It doesn't work. So from day one, you both matter here.

We will slow things way down. Most couples come in moving so fast by defending, explaining, proving, that they haven't actually felt anything in years. Part of my job is to help you get underneath the arguments to what's really happening. The fear. The grief. The longing. That's where the real work lives.

You will not get a list of communication tips and be sent home. I'm not here to teach you how to use "I statements" and call it a day. That's fine for some people, it's just not what I do. My work goes deeper than that, into the emotional and nervous-system patterns that drive your cycle, not just the words on the surface.

You will probably learn something about yourself that surprises you. People come in thinking this is about their partner. And yes, it's partly about your partner. But it's also about the version of you that shows up when you feel scared, dismissed, or like you're not enough. That's the part we get curious about.

You won't be in therapy forever. I work within a structured 12-month intensive model-monthly 6-hour sessions- so you always know what you're committing to. It's not open-ended "come every week indefinitely" therapy. It's focused, intentional, and designed to actually get you somewhere.

What you should not expect:

• Me to take sides

• A quick fix

• To feel great after every single session (some sessions will leave you sitting with hard things. and that's okay)

• Judgment for how bad things have gotten

If you're looking for marriage counseling Wake Forest NC and you want something that actually moves the needle, not just a place to vent once a week, this is built for that. Most couples leave the first intensive saying they got more done in two days than they had in years of weekly therapy.

A few things, but let me be real with you instead of just listing credentials.

I stopped doing weekly therapy. Not because I had to, but because I watched it underserve people for years. Fifty minutes, once a week, see you next Thursday, it works sort of. But "sort of" isn't good enough for me. After working with hundreds of couples since 2013, I made a decision: I only do what actually gets results. That's intensives now. Full days. We don't stop when it gets uncomfortable, we go all the way in. And most couples walk out of their very first day feeling something they haven't felt in a long time: like they can actually breathe.

I run a boutique practice on purpose. Small client list. You are never client number 35 with a burned-out therapist checking boxes and watching the clock. When you work with me, you get my full attention, my full presence, and someone who actually remembers what you said last time.

I'm obsessed with staying sharp. I fly around the country for advanced trainings. I'm in bi-weekly consultation with leaders in the field. I am genuinely fascinated by how the brain and nervous system work, not in a nerdy-lecture way, but in a this-is-why-you-keep-having-the-same-fight-and-here's-how-we-change-it way. My clients deserve someone who's constantly growing. So I am.

I'm not a blank-slate therapist. I've lived in three countries. I've been through divorce, heartbreak, starting over. I'm no stranger to trauma, neurodiversity, and chronic health stuff. I'm raising three kids, including my husband. Sort of. The point is: I'm not sitting across from you with a clipboard and zero life experience. I get it. Life is messy. Relationships are complicated. And real healing takes guts.

I won't waste your time and I won't sugarcoat things. If something isn't working, I'll say so. If you're doing something that's blowing up your relationship, I'll name it, kindly, but clearly. I'm not here to make you feel good and then send you home with the same problems. I'm here to actually move the needle.

There's a lot on this website — blogs, videos, all kinds of content. But if you're done consuming information and ready to actually start healing, let's talk. Book a free 30-minute consultation here.

We'll figure out together if this is what you've been looking for.

No.

In fact, this work is not designed as a last-ditch effort.

It works best for couples who:

• Still care deeply about each other

• Are willing to be honest and show up

• Want to rebuild, not just “fix fights”

If one partner is already completely checked out, we’ll talk honestly about whether this is the right next step.

You’re not alone.

Many couples come to me after trying therapy that felt like:

• Talking in circles

• Repeating the same arguments

• Leaving sessions feeling worse

That doesn’t mean therapy doesn’t work, it usually means the approach or format wasn’t the right fit.

Weekly sessions can feel too short, momentum gets lost between appointments, and just as things open up, life pulls you back into the same patterns.

If you’re a high-functioning couple, you likely don’t need more surface-level conversations, you need focused, deep work that actually creates change.

That’s why I offer private couples retreats North Carolina, so we can step out of the cycle, go deeper, and create real, lasting shifts in your relationship by the end of the DAY (not month)!

No, and that’s because I care about getting you the best possible results.

Based on hundreds of couples I’ve worked with over the past 15+ years, I’ve found that deep, intensive work is what actually creates lasting change.

Traditional one-hour weekly sessions often stop right when things get uncomfortable or when real breakthroughs are about to happen. The clock runs out, and you’re told, “See you next Thursday,” even though you were just getting somewhere.

In my intensive work, we don’t stop when it gets hard. We stay with it. We go deep. And we help rewire your brain and nervous system in ways that talking for 1 hour between work meetings and kids pick ups can’t.

One 6-hour intensive is the equivalent of 10+ weeks of traditional therapy, compressed into one powerful day, so you can finally breathe again and start showing up as the partner (and parent) you want to be RIGHT AWAY!

Yes, and it’s very intentional.

I use a combination of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Brainspotting, and Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) to work with both the mind and the body because real, lasting change doesn’t happen through insight alone.

• EFT helps us understand your relationship patterns and shift the negative cycle so you can feel safe, connected, and actually reach each other again.

• Brainspotting allows us to access and process deeper emotional wounds that are stored in the body, especially the ones that keep getting triggered no matter how much you “talk it through.”

• KAP (when appropriate) helps soften defenses and create powerful emotional breakthroughs, so you can process pain, rebuild trust, and reconnect in a way that feels real, not forced.

This isn’t surface-level communication coaching. This is deep, experiential work that helps you feel different with each other, not just understand each other better.

This is the question I hear most. And I get it because by the time most couples reach out, they've already tried things. Maybe weekly therapy that went nowhere. Maybe a book, a retreat, a "let's just try harder" phase that didn't stick.

Here's my honest answer: if you both still care, even underneath all the frustration and distance, there is something to work with. I've sat with couples who looked totally broken on paper and watched them find their way back to each other. I've also worked with couples who seemed fine on the surface and discovered the disconnection ran deeper than they realized.

What I can tell you is this: the couples who do this work and stay with it- the ones who show up even when it's uncomfortable, consistently get somewhere real. Not perfect. Real.

What I won't do is promise you a specific outcome. That would be dishonest. But I can promise you that if both of you are still willing to try, this process gives you the best shot I know of.

If one of you has already mentally checked out and is secretly looking for an exit, this isn't the right fit. My intensives are for couples who still want to be together, even if that wanting is buried under a lot of pain right now.

Short answer: you probably don't need to know yet. That's what the consultation is for.

But here's a quick breakdown:

EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) is where most couples start. It's the foundation of everything I do. We use it to map the negative cycle you're stuck in, the pursuer-withdrawer dynamic, the shutdown, the fight that keeps happening in different costumes, and help you start responding to each other from a different place. It's deeply research-backed and works for most couples.

Brainspotting goes into the body. If there's trauma, personal history, attachment wounds, things that happened in this relationship that left a mark, Brainspotting helps your nervous system process and release what talking alone can't reach. You don't have to tell the whole story. Your body already knows it.

Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) is for when the mind needs help quieting down. Some people are so locked in their defenses, their anxiety, their shame, that they can't access vulnerability even when they want to. Low-dose ketamine temporarily softens that. It doesn't make decisions for you. It just creates a window. We do the real work inside that window together.

Most couples end up using a blend of all three over time. During our consultation, I'll share my recommendations based on your specific situation.

Then we talk about it. Honestly.

The relationship between a therapist and the people they work with matters enormously. If something isn't clicking, like my style, my approach, the pace, I want to know. You won't hurt my feelings. I'd rather you tell me than quietly disengage.

If we genuinely aren't the right fit, I'll help you find someone who is. There are a lot of great therapists out there. My goal is your relationship getting better, not keeping you on my schedule.

Short answer: if it's a real relationship and you're ready to do real work, you're probably in the right place.

Here's the longer version:

Married couples. This is the core of my work- people who built a life together and somewhere along the way lost the thread. The love is still there. The connection isn't. That's exactly what intensives are designed for.

Couples who aren't married. Commitment doesn't require a certificate. If you're in a serious relationship and you're stuck, you're welcome here.

Couples considering divorce or separation. Not every couple I work with is trying to save the marriage in the traditional sense. Some are trying to figure out whether to stay. That's legitimate work too, and it deserves the same honesty and depth.

Individuals who want to work on their relationship patterns. Sometimes one partner isn't ready, isn't available, or the relationship is with yourself. I work with individuals on attachment wounds, relationship anxiety, divorce recovery, and the patterns that keep showing up no matter who you're with.

LGBTQIA+ couples and individuals. My practice is explicitly affirming, not as a checkbox, but as a genuine commitment. You don't have to explain your relationship structure or educate me on your identity. You just get to do the work.

Couples in consensual non-monogamy (CNM). Polyamorous, open, relationship anarchists- whatever your structure, I work within it, not against it. I'm not here to talk you into monogamy.

BIPOC clients. My practice is anti-racist and culturally responsive. That means I'm paying attention to the context your relationship exists in, not just the dynamic between the two of you in the room.

A few things worth naming about who I don't work with:

I don't work with children or teenagers. Adults only — 21 and up.

I don't work with couples where there's active domestic violence or coercive control. That requires a different kind of specialized support, and I'll help you find it.

I don't work well with couples where one person is secretly checked out, keeping major secrets, or treating this as the last box to tick before leaving. The intensive model requires both people to be genuinely willing, not performing willingness.

And I don't work with people who want surface-level advice or a quick script to fix things. That's not what this is.

If you're not sure whether your situation fits, just reach out. The consultation call exists exactly for that. Book your free 30 minutes here and we'll figure it out together.

The roommate dynamic. You're great co-parents. Great teammates. You manage the house, the kids, the logistics like a well-oiled machine. But the warmth is gone. You can't remember the last time you felt genuinely close. You love each other, you're just not in it anymore.

The pursuer-withdrawer cycle. One of you pushes, brings things up, needs to talk it out. The other shuts down, goes quiet, disappears into work or their phone or just... away. The more one pursues, the more the other withdraws. The more they withdraw, the louder the pursuit gets. Nobody wins. Both people end up alone.

Emotional distance after a major life event. A miscarriage. A career implosion. A move. A health crisis. Sometimes life hits hard and instead of pulling together, couples quietly drift apart. The rupture never gets named. It just becomes the new normal.

Chronic conflict. The same fight, different Tuesday. Different words, same wound. You've had the conversation a hundred times and nothing actually changes. That's not a communication problem, that's an attachment pattern. And that's fixable.

Betrayal and broken trust. Emotional affairs. Physical affairs. Lies that went on too long. Financial secrets. Whatever it was, if there's still something worth rebuilding and you're both willing, this is some of the deepest work I do.

Intimacy, emotional and physical. The sex stopped. Or it never felt connected. Or one partner wants more and the other has shut that door. Intimacy issues are almost never really about sex. They're about safety. We work on the safety.

Feeling like you're parenting your partner. You're exhausted from being the one who holds everything together, the mental load, the emotional labor, the calendar, the kids. You love your partner but you've started to resent them. And the resentment is starting to feel louder than the love.

Growing apart. You got together young, or you've just changed, separately, in different directions. You're not sure if you still want the same things. You're not sure if the person you are now is compatible with the person they've become. That's terrifying and it deserves real space to explore.

Anxiety, depression, and how they show up in relationships. Individual struggles don't stay individual. When one partner is anxious, shut down, or struggling, it shapes everything, how you communicate, how close you can get, how safe the relationship feels. I work with the individual stuff and how it lands between you.

Trauma and attachment wounds. Childhood stuff. Family of origin patterns. The ways you learned to survive that now sabotage your relationship. A lot of couples are really fighting their past, not each other. Brainspotting and KAP are particularly powerful for this.

Trying to figure out whether to stay or go. Sometimes the question isn't "how do we fix this", it's "should we even try?" That's a valid and important question. And it deserves honest, supported exploration rather than just defaulting to either staying miserable or blowing everything up.

Here's what ties all of it together: underneath almost every issue I've ever worked with is some version of the same thing. I don't feel safe enough to be real with you. I don't feel like you really see me. I'm terrified that if you knew how much I need you, you'd leave, or use it against me.

That's the work. Everything else is the surface.

Sooner than you probably think.

Here's how it works:

Step 1: Book a free consultation. You can grab a spot on my calendar directly from this website, no phone tag, no waitlist to get on a waitlist. Pick a time that works and we talk.

Step 2: We talk for 30 minutes. I'll hear what's been going on, you'll get a feel for how I work, and we'll figure out together whether this is the right fit. If it is, we'll map out a plan by the end of the call.

Step 3: We schedule your first intensive. For new couples, that's a 2-day intensive, 6 hours each day. We'll find dates that work for both of you and get it on the calendar.

That's it. No jumping through hoops.

Here's what I'll say honestly: my schedule does fill up. I keep my practice intentionally small so every client gets my full attention, which means I'm not running a revolving door of back-to-back appointments. When I have availability, I have it. When I don't, I don't.

So if you've been sitting on this, reading the website, watching the videos, thinking "we should probably do something", the best time to reach out is now. Not because of some cheesy urgency tactic. But because the longer disconnection sits, the heavier it gets. And you've already waited long enough.

I'm not going to promise you that. And you should be suspicious of any therapist who does.

Here's what I can honestly say: this work gives your relationship the best possible chance. Not a guarantee, but a real, fighting chance. The couples who show up willing and stay with the process almost always find something worth saving.

What I've also seen is couples who come in and discover through the work that they genuinely aren't right for each other. That's not failure. That's clarity. And honest clarity is better than another decade half-present and miserable.

My job isn't to keep you married at all costs. My job is to help you heal and make the most grounded decision you can about your future, together or apart.

What I know for sure: if you're still here, still reading this, still willing to reach out, that means something. The couples who don't make it aren't usually the ones who tried too hard. They're the ones who waited too long.

Don't wait.

Yes! Couples travel here from all over.

Depending on our mutual availability, some couples prefer to schedule 2–3 day intensives back-to-back in one trip for maximum impact. Other couples prefer to fly in monthly for just a single intensive day and have a mini couples trip. It’s whatever works best for your situation.

We’ll work together to find a schedule that fits your travel needs while still keeping the consistency needed for real progress.

My office is located in downtown Wake Forest, North Carolina.

It’s a private, comfortable space designed specifically for deep, focused work with couples and individuals.

Yes. My office is located in Wake Forest, NC and I work with couples throughout the Raleigh/Durham/Cary/Chapel Hill/ Wake Forest area and beyond.

In-person intensives happen at my cozy Wake Forest office- it's private, comfortable, and set up specifically for deep work. Not a sterile clinical space. A place where people actually feel safe enough to be real.

Yes! I offer solo intensives as well.

Book a free 30-minute consultation here.‍ We will talk about what's been happening, what you're hoping for, and whether this is the right fit. At the end of the call, if we both feel good about it, we'll map out the plan.

You don't need to have everything figured out before you call. You just need to be ready to have an honest conversation. That's enough.