Are We a Good Candidate for a Marriage Retreat in North Carolina?

A marriage retreat is a whole day of therapy during which partners have the opportunity to get to know each other better, understand their cycle, their patterns, and learn how to stop that cycle.

A marriage retreat in North Carolina typically lasts seven hours, divided into two three-hour sessions with a lunch break in between, and can be done in person or virtually.

During this unique couples intensive, you will learn how to effectively talk to your partner in a way that works for them based on their attachment style, triggers, pain points, or trauma history.

While most of us understand that we are stuck in a repetitive cycle and that we don't know how to get out of it, a lot of us haven't gone on a journey where we really understand what is happening for our partners underneath their reactivity, anger response, or withdrawal.

A marriage retreat in North Carolina can help you talk about those fears, activate your inner parent, heal yourself, and bring the most important person (your partner) along on this journey.

What qualifies you as a couple for such a deep-dive day? First, let's look at who is a good fit for a marriage retreat in North Carolina and who is not.

Who Is a Good Fit for a Marriage Retreat in North Carolina?

·       Couples with childcare issues.

Couples who struggle with childcare usually find a one-day deep-dive marriage retreat in North Carolina easier to do than traditional weekly sessions.

·       Couples who do not have access to a local specialist.

Couples who are looking for a therapist who specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) often struggle to find a suitable professional in their local area. As a result, many couples decide to sign up for EFT. This scientifically proven and research-based modality works for couples in distress, as more than thirty years of research has confirmed.

People who can't find a professional in their area usually sign up for a marriage retreat in North Carolina, either online or in person.

·       Couples who are always traveling or on the go.

Couples, where (one or both) partners travel often find it challenging to commit to traditional weekly therapy. In this case, we do a three-way retreat with all participants in different places. Although people understandably have reservations about this type of marriage retreat, in my opinion, it is as effective as a regular couples intensive.

·       Couples who, for whatever reason, are unable to commit to a weekly therapy

Couples who cannot commit to weekly therapy due to a lack of time, finances, energy, or any other reason may find a marriage retreat in North Carolina a wonderful therapy option.

We live busy lives, so a one-day couples intensive may sound like the perfect instant solution. Some couples think that going on a marriage retreat can help them understand and clear up specific moments in their relationships, heal, and move on with their daily lives after they've been through something challenging.

However, a short-term marriage retreat is usually not enough. Most of the time, people need more than this one-day intensive to sustain the change over time.

Who is Not a Good Fit for a Marriage Retreat in North Carolina?

A marriage retreat is not a good option for couples who are engaged in active and ongoing:

·       abuse or violence

·       affairs

·       addictions

Not only a couples intensive, but couples therapy, in general, is not recommended for couples struggling with abuse, affairs, or addictions.

The reason why is because we need to have enough safety in order to be vulnerable and honest with each other and make progress in psychotherapy.

Suppose any of these three things are happening in a relationship. In that case, I usually recommend couples do individual pre-work and work on their issues before they come back and work on their relationship.

Summary

A marriage retreat in North Carolina is a one-day intensive that typically lasts seven hours. It can be done in person or virtually. A marriage retreat can be a wonderful way to restore and heal your relationship, as it allows you to deep-dive into your issues and truly understand each other. It can be a perfect solution if you, for any reason, cannot commit to regular weekly sessions.

However, most couples need traditional, weekly marriage counseling to sustain this change.

A marriage retreat in North Carolina (or any other marriage therapy) is not recommended for couples struggling with active infidelity, abuse, or addictions.

I hope this was helpful. If you have any questions or would like to schedule an appointment in my Wake Forest or virtual office, do not hesitate to book your free 15 min phone consultation online by clicking here.