Couples Counseling and Marriage Counseling Raleigh NC
There is nothing more upsetting than when your partner becomes a stranger. You aren’t sure what to do, where to turn to, if you need couples counseling or a divorce attorney.
You protest against this emotional disconnection and want to ask your partner:
“Are you there for me?”
“Can I count on you?”
“Do I matter to you?”
But because these questions have been burning inside you for sooo long, the only thing that comes out of your mouth is blame and criticism. Your partner, hearing that he or she has failed at love (once again), freezes up. Then both of you feel miserable and hopeless, stuck in this so familiar and never ending vicious cycle.
Or you may be feeling burned out from trying to reach your partner for so long, and now you just shut down and move away. Whether you the one who pursues the emotional connection (because you feel “alone”) or withdraws from it (because you feel “inadequate”), I want you to know that there is hope. There is nothing broken about your responses. From a neurological perspective, it is your mammalian brain that protects you from danger because intimacy is risky.
What if I told you that almost everything you’d been taught about having a healthy, sustainable relationship or marriage was a lie? Think about what your parents showed you and told you. Think about what you see in movies, and in your friend’s relationships… A lot of people have tools for relationships that include: “be nice”, “be honest”, “don’t go to bed angry”.
But, how many couples have you seen fall apart when they were really nice to each other? They were so nice that they let arguments build up and fester until every ounce of love had been drowned out.
How many times have you tried to resolve a conflict with your partner for hours only to end up at the end exhausted, not really feeling resolution- but trying to just sweep everything away so you could finally get some sleep? And, what happens when our honesty deeply hurts the one we love? How can we be honest when we don’t even know how we feel!
If you are a couple who can’t communicate with each other without fighting or shutting down (and sometimes both), call me today for your FREE 15 min consultation to discuss strategies to help you heal past hurts, calm your inner critic down, and strengthen trust and connection with your most important person. Couples counseling, marriage therapy, and relationship therapy provided in my Wake Forest counseling office and online. Serving Raleigh, Durham, and the triangle area.
How can couples therapy save your relationship?
Feel greater emotional connection with your partner
Communicate more effectively
Restore trust and intimacy