As a marriage counselor at marriage counseling Raleigh NC, I am committed to helping couples who have found themselves feeling more like roommates or co-parenting couples in sexless marriages. I enjoy helping people transform troubled relationships into relationships that are not only happier but also emotionally secure and filled with significance.

Today, I’d like to dive into a topic that disturbs many couples: the ebb and flow of intimacy in marriages and long-lasting relationships. Have you ever found yourself wondering where the passion in your relationship went? When did the excitement of being together dissolve into the comfort of being roommates? You get through the day and get things done, but not much is happening in the bedroom or in your hearts, and it’s just about getting by every day.

If you are exhausted of feeling alone and disconnected and hate the idea of feeling like this for another minute much less another few months, my specialized marriage retreats in North Carolina can provide the relief right here right now!

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Reviving Intimacy in Marriage

 Many couples who have been together for years feel like something is missing, particularly when the spark in the bedroom diminishes. If this is you, you may be wondering what to do.

First, it is essential to understand that it’s perfectly normal for the flames of passion and the park to change and fade over time. It’s just how things work. Remember those early days filled with endless energy, great sex, and sleep-filled nights? You were hot and young, with little to no obligations. But this is as good as it gets. It’s when love is new and life is less complicated. We meet our partner, fall in love, and get married. But as life evolves and things change. How can your sex life and passion stay the same when now you have two little kids, demanding jobs, less sleep, less time to exercise or eat well, and more stress? You have so much on your plate. It’s inevitable for your relationship to change, including your sex life.

So, what do you do about this?

Acknowledging the situation is step one. You may not like this change, but it’s normal. It’s about understanding that it’s a common phase in a long-term relationship.

But then there is step two: what do you do about it? If you are equipped to discuss it openly with your partner, that’s fantastic. But if not, seeking support from a trained and specialized marriage counselor can help you have that conversation, change, and heal so that you can be happy together in your hearts and the bedroom.

What Not to Do When You’re Stuck in a Sexless Marriage?

 Intimacy issues often lead people to withdraw from their partners. While some of us lean in, eager to work through the challenges together, others may lean out of the relationship, avoiding conversation, evading conflicts, or seeking comfort in unhealthy distractions such as overeating, alcohol, or affairs. These other coping mechanisms that you may use to help you fill the void can only make things worse.

So, it’s crucial to understand where you stand, what you contribute to the situation, and what steps you can take to move towards a healthier dynamic.

There are so many other aspects of sexuality, and understanding sexuality in marriage goes beyond the physical act. It is about emotional connection and mutual satisfaction that goes way deeper than you might fail to see because you feel burned out, stuck, or in pain. So, it is important to understand that your feelings are valid and that this complex issue deserves attention and care.

Summary

 Remember, it’s not just about finding a way back to each other physically but reconnecting on a deeper level to ensure you both feel fulfilled, in and out of the bedroom.

I hope this is helpful. If you have any questions or would like to schedule your free 15-minute phone consultation with me, click here or check out FAQs to learn more.

This is not your typical weekly kind of therapy. I am here to help couples and individuals in relationships do what is proven to work to help them heal their relationships. Through marriage counseling Raleigh NC, marriage retreat in North Carolina, online therapy North Carolina, and individual counseling, there is something for every couple who wants to heal their relationship.

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 Hi, I'm Irina Baechle, LCSW, in Raleigh, NC. I believe in the power of healthy relationships and write on that topic. Whether you and a partner are co-creating a healthy marriage or you are single and navigating how to have healthy relationships, my content is for you. Let's make healthy, trustworthy marriages the norm instead of the exception! Topics I write about include marriage, infidelity, roommate marriages, healthy second marriages, and healing after toxic or unfaithful marriages.