As a licensed marriage counselor in Raleigh NC (North Caroline), I often have the opportunity to work with couples trapped in sexless marriages with no genuine emotional and physical connection. So, today, I’d like to continue delving into the complexity of sexless marriages. What is a sexless marriage? What might be going on underneath this problem, and what can you do about it?

One of the things that many couples find very helpful is to find a professional to talk about these issues, which are very intimate, vulnerable, and raw. So, let’s explore the underlying causes and potential solutions so that you and your partner can learn to like each other again and have that sex life you dream about.

If you are exhausted of feeling alone and disconnected and hate the idea of feeling like this for another minute much less another few months, my specialized marriage retreats in North Carolina can provide the relief right here right now!

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What are Sexless Marriages?

Sexless marriages are relationships where intimacy is either significantly reduced or non-existent. Lack of intimacy can profoundly affect couples’ emotional and physical bonds, communication, and relationship satisfaction.

Why Discussing Your Sexless Marriage with Friends and Family Is Not a Good Idea?

Couples in marriage counseling Raleigh often tell me they’ve tried opening up about their problems to friends and family. While discussing such intimate issues with a friend might seem like a good idea, it can bring its own set of concerns. Even though friends can be well-intended and supportive, they often have biases and opinions. Of course, marriage counselors do this, too. Still, we are professionally trained and possess expertise and skills that allow us to work on behalf of relationships.

However, addressing your issues with family members is something I am cautious about because most families will, at the end of the day, support the partner who is part of that family, potentially judging and alienating the other partner. This can lead to conflicts, resentment, and hurt.

Furthermore, family members will always remember your dirty laundry. Suppose you reconcile and consolidate your difficulties in the future. In that case, they will be aware of your personal issues, which can be challenging for some family members to move past.

The Importance of Professional Guidance: Why Choose Marriage Counseling?

Unlike friends or family, relationship therapists spend years training, bringing professional training and expertise. We are equipped with the skills and tools to work on behalf of relationships.

How Marriage Counseling Raleigh Can Breathe Life into a Sexless Relationship?

Marriage counselor’s training and qualifications allow them to understand how emotions, past experiences, communication, and attachment styles interplay in a relationship. Most of the time, friends cannot access this information and knowledge.

Support and validation 

Getting support and validation is one of the most important things you can expect from therapy. Marriage counselors normalize your feelings and create a safe space for your problems. We feel your pain, so we help you organize and make sense of your emotions and experiences.

Gaining clarity

The second thing you can expect from marriage therapy is gaining clarity on what’s going on underneath the sexless marriage. Many people have a very narrow vision of it, thinking, “Oh, she doesn’t want me” or “He is not interested in me.” Still, there is usually so much more going on there, from different sex drives to trauma history and from a personal relationship to sex to emotional turmoil in a relationship. Marriage counseling helps uncover the underlying issues in a sexless marriage, helping you move beyond superficial assumptions to deeper insights.

Improving emotional connection

Find a counselor with the proper training, skills, and expertise. You’ll be able to work on your emotional cycle and learn how to reach out emotionally to each other. Marriage counseling Raleigh can help you learn how to communicate effectively, de-escalate arguments, and foster a loving, genuine connection. This usually leads to an improved sex life, as good communication is vital to healthy relationships and fulfilling intimacy. Feeling seen, heard, and understood by your partner encourages intimacy and leads to an improved sex life.

Summary

If you are experiencing a sexless marriage, consider consulting a skilled marriage counselor as the right professional help can help you navigate these challenges and rekindle passion in your marriage.

I hope this is helpful and that you apply it not only to your relationship with your spouse but also to your relationships with your children, friends, and other significant people in your life. If you have any questions or would like to schedule your free 15-minute phone consultation with me, click here or check out the FAQs to learn more.

This is not your typical weekly kind of therapy. I am here to help couples and individuals in relationships do what is proven to work to help them heal their relationships. Through marriage counseling Raleigh NC, marriage retreat in North Carolina, online therapy North Carolina, and individual counseling, there is something for every couple who wants to heal their relationship.”

Stop wasting years of your precious life to feel happy. Schedule your free 15-minute consultation with me today by clicking here. During the call you will discover how having a place to heal your relationship with a guide can take you from the hurt to a healthier relationship than the one you grew up with.

Hi, I'm Irina Baechle, LCSW, in Raleigh, NC. I believe in the power of healthy relationships and write on that topic. Whether you and a partner are co-creating a healthy marriage or you are single and navigating how to have healthy relationships, my content is for you.

Let's make healthy, trustworthy marriages the norm instead of the exception!

Topics I write about include marriage, infidelity, roommate marriages, healthy second marriages, and healing after toxic or unfaithful marriages.