Navigating parenting while maintaining the connection between spouses is a topic I frequently explore with my clients in marriage counseling Raleigh NC sessions.

We've all experienced how difficult and overwhelming it can be to raise little children, whether one or several. You may feel exhausted most of the time after becoming a parent, unable to relax and appreciate your new role.

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You may be struggling with an identity crisis because you no longer have the independence you once had. You could miss doing things you enjoyed before having a child but, at the same time, feel guilty and ashamed about missing all of those things.

Or, you might feel pressured because your identity used to be based on your career and what you did at work.

Moreover, parenting young children significantly affects the relationship and emotional connection between partners. So, it is essential to know how to reach for your partner and nurture your connection while also being in a rut of raising little kids, working, and going about your everyday life.

During marriage counseling Raleigh NC sessions, I often hear people say, "How can we do this when we're feeling so physically and emotionally worn out and exhausted?"

After putting their children to bed, most couples say they want to stay on the sofa, not even talking to each other, but checking out and mindlessly browsing their phones instead, or even going to different rooms and isolating themselves because they are exhausted.

Marriage Counseling Raleigh NC: How Do You Emotionally Reach for Your Partner?

End yet, we still want to feel loved and connected with our partners because we are hardwired for connection. So, how can we connect when we don't have the energy to actually make it happen?

What is essential here is to know how you reach your partner in those moments. How do you let your partner know that you need them and want to be loved and wanted?

Do you externalize – come to your partner, blame them, criticize, and demand?

Do you shut down and move away because you feel tired and disconnected?

Or do you come to your partner and say, "I am so exhausted. I don't have the words to express myself right now, but I miss you. And I really need a moment of just us right now, even if it means just sitting on the couch and touching each other with no words."

Sometimes, this is just what we need to feel relieved, relaxed, and recharged. Our body language and the physical experience of each other are many times more important and more powerful than any loving, big words we can use.

So, sit with it, really pay attention, and explore how you reach for your partner when you feel exhausted and overwhelmed. How do you show them that you need them?

Discuss your needs, feelings, and desires with your partner, and ask them about theirs. Plan your at-home date nights, from snuggling on a sofa to watching a movie, having a nice dinner at home, taking a soothing bath together, and scheduling sex dates for both feeling refreshed and ready.

Anything that allows you to relax while creating an intimate setting will do.

Marriage Retreat in North Carolina: Summary

Parenting is an advantageous but sometimes taxing role, draining your energy and making it difficult to connect with your partner in the same way you did before having children. Reflecting on how you reach emotionally for your partner is the first step towards rekindling intimacy and connection while raising little kids.

I hope this is helpful and that you apply it not only to your relationship with your spouse but also to your relationships with your children, friends, and other significant people in your life. If you have any questions or would like to schedule your free 15-minute phone consultation with me, click here or check out FAQs to learn more.

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 Hi, I'm Irina Baechle, LCSW, in Raleigh, NC. I believe in the power of healthy relationships and write on that topic. Whether you and a partner are co-creating a healthy marriage or you are single and navigating how to have healthy relationships, my content is for you. Let's make healthy, trustworthy marriages the norm instead of the exception! Topics I write about include marriage, infidelity, roommate marriages, healthy second marriages, and healing after toxic or unfaithful marriages.