Marriage counseling Raleigh NC may be the perfect solution for you if you and your partner have communication issues, feel like you don't like each other anymore, or that your relationship lacks passion and authenticity.

Do you feel disconnected, misunderstood, and overwhelmed by trying new things yet feeling like they don't work?

If this describes your marriage and you want more out of it, you may consider marriage counseling Raleigh NC to identify and eliminate unhealthy patterns so you can begin enjoying each other again.

It is impossible to agree on everything, no matter how well you get along. A marriage counselor can help you find answers if your problems seem overwhelming and you don't see a way out.

If you are exhausted of feeling alone and disconnected and hate the idea of feeling like this for another minute much less another few months, my specialized marriage retreats in North Carolina can provide the relief right here right now!

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Marriage Counseling Raleigh NC: Me Against You vs. Us Against the Problem

Lashing out at each other for the smallest cause or trying to avoid conflicts will not make you feel better or help you in the long run. Instead, it might make things worse in your marriage and hurt everyone.

Conflicts can be a chance to make a change and learn better ways to reach each other. Therefore, when you are in conflict, the most critical question to ask yourself is, "Is my partner going to receive this information as me against you or as us against the problem?"

Why is this important?

Asking yourself this question is critical because if your partner is going to receive what you are about to say as "you against them," nothing you're going to say will land well in their heart.

They will get defensive, shut you out, and withdraw, or they will "get big" and angry.

Either way, your communication will be ineffective.

Couples Therapy Raleigh NC: Learning to Articulate What is Happening for You

However, if you filter whatever you are going to say through this internal filter of "how are they going to perceive what I'm about to say," your relationship dynamics will change.

For instance, you might say, "Hey, you're always late, and I hate it! Because of you, I'm always late!"

Or you can say, "Honey, being on time is really important for me. When we're late, I feel so stressed out, so overwhelmed, and so angry."

Your partner will most likely respond differently to these two ways of expressing yourself.

In the first scenario, they will probably say they feel disrespected because you make them feel bad about themselves and that they don't want to do anything to help you.

But if you tell your partner how you feel, you will articulate what is happening for you on the inside. This way, your partner can understand it and take action about it.

So, think about how your partner will receive and respond to what you are going to say. Is it going to be “me against you or us against the problem?”

Online Therapy North Carolina: Summary

Our families of origin teach us habits that can make it hard to get along with other people as adults. So, we have to relearn and change these patterns so we can grow as individuals and be fulfilled and happy in our adult relationships.

Marriage counseling Raleigh NC can help you understand that it's normal to have problems and not see eye to eye on everything. However, as long as you work on it together and navigate those differences in a way that brings you closer together instead of pushing you apart, you can protect your relationship and make it flourish.

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Hi, I'm Irina Baechle, LCSW, in Raleigh, NC. I believe in the power of healthy relationships and write on that topic. Whether you and a partner are co-creating a healthy marriage or you are single and navigating how to have healthy relationships, my content is for you. Let's make healthy, trustworthy marriages the norm instead of the exception! Topics I write about include marriage, infidelity, roommate marriages, healthy second marriages, and healing after toxic or unfaithful marriages.