How to have a great date night

How To Have A Great Date Night

Relationships sometimes may take an entirely different turn from what you expected. It could be due to a lot of factors which could be internal or external. Pressure from work, personal issues, or simply having no time to dedicate to your marriage and family could have had an effect on your relationship. Whatever the case may be, it is your duty to salvage your relationship from going down the drain. Do not let simple communication problems take over your life and distract you from being able to feeling truly connected with your most important person. It is never too late to restore your relationship to what it was like from the beginning.

If you are looking to have those lovely feelings back again, to build an even more healthy relationship, feel that connection again, bring romance and life back into your relationship, you might just need to be self aware of a few things like cutting down on the use electronics such as your smart phones. Instant messaging has done enough damage to relationships. If you absolutely have to use the phone, you can do better by replacing instant messaging with calls. Nothing can replace a deep conversation with your partner face to face, but actually talking on the phone is sooo much better that texting. It gives you the chance to convey your emotions purely.

This post will be a focus point on how to have a great date night in Wake Forest, Raleigh, or where ever you two live or hang out at. Date nights are very important to your relationship. Having an relaxing evening out with your partner is a great way to build a stronger relationship. A successful date night could be the perfect cure for the spice you’ve lost in your relationship. Just the perfect way to rekindle your romance life and bring those butterflies back to your stomach. And did I forget to say that date nights can improve your communication skills with your partner, away from all distractions, away from all electronics, and it’s the two of you having a great time together.

Now that you know how a date night can save your marriage, you might be planning to have a go at it. However, you may not be very sure of how exactly to achieve a great date night. Let’s break it down:

Plan For Your Date Night In Advance

Be sure to know when your partner would be free enough to have a date night or you could just ask them when they feel is appropriate. No one would appreciate a plan crasher. Moreover, if you don’t have a solid plan beforehand, we all know life has a way of getting in the way of things. So, do well to have a perfect plan by informing your partner that you want to have a quality time with them. It could be on one night before you go to bed, just pop the question like “Darling, what do you think of Thursday night? I want us to go far away from all distractions to spend some quality time together”. This will send some chills down your partner’s spine and keep them anticipating the day. This way, your partner feels loved. Unlike getting off work late one evening to start strategizing. That’s not a good way to start a great date night.

Have specific fun late night ideas planned out

You don’t want to get in the car and start asking each other where to go or what do. No! It shouldn’t be. Be sure to have a perfect plan. It can be frustrating and annoying if you start pushing questions around like “where do you want to go?” or “what do you want to do for tonight”. It makes you look clueless and it could be a pointer to a boring night. You should know ahead of time what you plan to do on Thursday night. There are a lot of things you could do to have a great date night around Raleigh and Triangle area. You could have a karaoke night for two, this is a really exciting date night idea. You could take turns to sing each other’s favorite song. You could also catch a late night show together or hit some late night diner.If you are still not sure after searching on the internet, check out my previous blog posts that should give several interesting ideas here and here and here.

Feel like kids again

Forget that you are adults now. Play young love with your partner on a date night. Be kids again and do something fun on your date. Remember the times you were dating before you lost all the fun to career building and child bearing. Leave all of those things behind and get in the mood to have fun again with your all time lover. Remember that fun date does not mean it has to be expensive, you are just out to have a cherishable moment together. You could watch the moon together while grabbing drinks and burger along. This gives you the opportunity to talk about the things you’ve missed about your partner. A very good way to be reconciled back to the bliss of your relationship.

Cut off whatever distraction

It all about the two of you tonight. No phones. No talks about work. No talks about the kids. Focus on you two. Get as romantic as you want. Forget whatever distraction you might have had all week long, that can surely wait. Get touchy with your partner, not to the extreme though. That can’t wait till you get to the bedroom but you can use a great date night to lay a good foundation for what happens later in the bedroom. Hugs and kisses can go a long way in bringing back emotional attachment to your relationship.

Home date night

If you are planning to hold your date at home, you can make it great by going with truth or dare, play your favorite game, have a movie night or make something together in the kitchen.

Also, the importance of couples therapy on your relationship cannot be over emphasized. Marriage counseling is a great way to shape your relationship into a better one. It has proven to be a significant help to a healthy relationship and overall relationship improvement. You get a very unique (and very rare) opportunity to really truly understand your partner’s mind and realize all the ideas they’ve gathered up there over the years. Couples therapy may be exactly what you need to address every problem that you may have in your relationship. Couples and Relationship Therapy in Wake Forest, NC and Online is always ready to help you transform your relationship.

A great night date is a perfect way to retrace your steps into a healthy relationship. Reconnect with your partner with a date night. And don’t forget to have fun!

I hope this information helps you understand more about how to have a truly unique and effective date night with your partner in Wake Forest, Raleigh, or the overall Triangle area. If you have any questions, do not hesitate to give me a call at (703)-347- 3200 for your free 15 min consultation and to schedule an appointment in my Wake Forest office or online.

If you are looking for help with your relationships or marriage, you can read more about how I can help here. Please do not wait several years before you seek couples counseling.


Irina Baechle,LCSW is a founder, owner, and a licensed therapist at IrinaBaechleCounselingLLC. She specializes in helping distant couples and anxious singles build truly connected and meaningful relationships. She currently offers online and in-home counseling services to residents of Virginia and North Carolina (and most countries abroad). Click here to schedule your free 15 min consultation. Follow her on Facebook, Pinterest, and Youtube for useful tips and resources.

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