I’ve had an amazing opportunity to attend a three day conference in Winston-Salem this past weekend organized by the North Carolina Association of Marriage and Family Therapy. We discussed relationships, marriage, couples counseling, cultural and racial differences and how they impact therapy, and many other things. I also had the privilege to represent the Carolina Center for Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy there and discuss this amazing modality with many interested therapist colleagues. Many asked me why I have decided to get trained in this particular school of thought-Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy or EFT, and not others.

And my answer was simple: because this approach has 75% success rates and it works!

I’ve seen it during live consultations wit real couples during the training years, watching the tapes, and, of course, in my own office. This approach is not easy by any means, but it provides an amazing opportunity for relationship helming and it works lie magic when both partners are willing to work on their marriage. This brings me to this week’s topic which is how to choose a couples therapist or a marriage counselor in Wake Forest, Raleigh, or really anywhere in the world. I broke it down to two parts, so let’s jump in:

Step 1: Explore therapist’s website

We live in the high technology world today where having a website is like having a business card. Every good business should have a comprehensive website that allows potential clients to learn about the therapist to make sure they would be a good fit. So, make sure your potential therapist has a website (and if they do not have a website and only a listing on certain directories like Psychology Today, that would be a red flag for me) and make sure you read through the website.

What kind of modality are they using for couples counseling?

What is the success rate?

Is it EFT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy), Gottman, PECT?

Do they have videos on their website? Watch these videos-at least several of them.

Do you like how they sound?

Do they make sense to you?

Do they sound like they know what they are talking about?

Step 2: Talk to the therapist

There is no way around this-you need to call them and a have a real life interaction with them. You can ask them how they can help you, what kind of therapy trainings for couples counseling they have, whether they have availability, and so on. This will provide you with the opportunity to get to know them on a more personal level and to see if they are a good fit.

Remember, the relationship between the client and the therapist is the best predictor for successful outcome, which means that you have to like your therapist! If they have none of these things, I would move on to the next therapist option.

I hope this information helps you to better understand how to choose a couples therapist or a marriage counselor in Wake Forest, North Carolina. If you are still feeling stuck, feel free to call me at (703) 347-3200 for a free 15-minute phone consultation. I’d be happy to hear about what is happening and help direct you to the right person.

If you are looking for help with your relationships or marriage, you can read more about how I can help here. Please do not wait several years before you seek couples counseling. You deserve to be happy today!


Irina Baechle,LCSW is a founder, owner, and a licensed therapist at IrinaBaechleCounselingLLC. She specializes in helping distant couples and anxious singles build truly connected and meaningful relationships. She currently offers online and in-home counseling services to residents of Virginia and North Carolina (and most countries abroad). Click here to schedule your free 15 min consultation. Follow her on Facebook, Pinterest, and Youtube for useful tips and resources.

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